I was reading a health blog in one of the addiction forums the other day and the author was explaining some basic routines for staying healthy. “Exercise. Try to eat right. Do the best you can to take care of yourself, etc. And if you are a drinker or use drugs, try to stay healthy anyways”. He said something along those lines and even though I’ve given up … Read More
I find myself now at age 52 quite happy, though definitely not content. I grew up in a privileged home, and after spending 20 years on Wall Street and working my way into the million dollar club, I fell into a deep depression. I was in a bad marriage and when I started on Wall Street before the internet, it was fun and I enjoyed it. As the internet boomed and the public’s confidence … Read More
While I only mention alcoholics in the title, the theory applies to addicts as well — as I believe they are one and the same anyhow. I began this as a response to an author who had said that addiction began as pure escapism from life. I ended up writing out my main message to those who suffer from addiction, and think perhaps some professionals may … Read More
You were probably discussing the subject at some point in the past when someone remarked “oh, he’s an addict” or “she’s an alcoholic” in an accusatory tone. If they had been talking about almost any other medical problem and said “he’s diabetic” or “she’s got cancer”, however, their tone would probably have been different — likely more sympathetic. This is because addiction is generally not viewed as a disease, unfortunately, but is perceived by many … Read More
The key to long term successin recovery is beginning with a solid treatment program. It is critical that you develop a solid foundation from which you can start working to get better, and proper treatment is the only way to build that foundation. Simply detoxing to break the addiction cycle cannot substitute for a longer term treatment plan, and by just detoxing and then installing yourself in a sober living you are putting … Read More
Most Adopted People Harbor Anger and Lack of Trust at some Levels, and there is a biological urge to know from whence we came. Don’t punish yourself if the question can’t be answered
I wrote this in one of the attached comments on this blog but wanted to make sure other adoptees did not miss it, and I elaborated a bit:
I feel for you insofar as wanting to find out more about your biological … Read More
This picture reminds me of what I thought about rehab before I went
This is absolutely one of the best articles I have read about a young woman’s thought process about possibly being an alcoholic because she is not a daily drinker. She is a binge drinker, not bottoming out yet, and completely confused about how awful rehab might be, and asking “should I go to rehab?” Especially enlightening are the comments people have made … Read More
I have been preaching for years now that I believe most people who are alcoholics began drinking (or drugging) to help kill the pain of a mood disorder. For whatever reason until today I had not known that there was empirical scientific data backing this notion up. Nobody really knows if you can be an alcoholic first, and then that triggers a long-term depressive episode, or visa versa. If you have an alcohol or drug … Read More
I have five rules I have developed over the years that help keep my depression at bay. If I break any one of the rules, I’m at risk of having a depressive episode — and for me there is nothing at all in life that is worse than one of these episodes or even compares to how low these put me on the mood scale. And, they have seemingly gotten deeper and more painful if … Read More
Author’s note: More Vietnam Vets have died from suicide than died in the whole Vietnam war because help was not available to many of them and Post Traumatic Stress took them down. Now we are losing 5 boys a day returning from Iraq and Afghanistan, not because help isn’t available, but because many of them have prided themselves on being tough. Needing a psychiatrist is seen as a weakness they are too proud to go